Whoa, I didn’t realize that it was so deliberate, I honestly thought it was unconscious
I remember one time, my mother got me a scarf and I told her I’d rather have had the money and she got so angry. Since nobody has ever gotten disappointed that their gift was rejected, I can conclude she was not offering me a gift but was merely planning to strangle me.
But srsly tho, giving non-money gifts is economically inefficient unless it’s one of the following situations:
- You are able to provide something that money can’t normally buy
- You are able to suggest something that better matches the person’s preferences than what they would have thought to buy themselves
- You are able to obtain something for substantially less than the market price of equivalent value
Thus, I personally think there are essentially four valid gifts: company, crafts, cuddles, and currency.